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technoir ([personal profile] technoir) wrote2004-02-06 02:58 pm

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I recently watched lost in the translation. This was a really good movie first off. Bill Murray may be my hero. But it led me to review the classic question of can you be a close friend with someone you are attracted to and not have it f*ck things up. My experience is yes, but I would be interested what others think.

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[identity profile] timhunter.livejournal.com 2004-02-06 12:23 pm (UTC)(link)
i loved that movie

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[identity profile] technoir.livejournal.com 2004-02-07 05:36 am (UTC)(link)
Indeed it is easily on my list of favorites of recent film offerings.

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[identity profile] hopelesslyraie.livejournal.com 2004-02-06 12:32 pm (UTC)(link)
Yes. Yes you can. Even if it kills you.

[identity profile] deorthewanderer.livejournal.com 2004-02-06 12:56 pm (UTC)(link)
Hey this is T btw. I would say that it depends on the person. As long as your friendship is strong enough that you put their needs and desires before your own it can work. That doesn't mean it doesn't hurt sometimes, and not everyone is strong enough to make that sacrifice. But I would say you are.

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[identity profile] technoir.livejournal.com 2004-02-07 05:40 am (UTC)(link)
Well i have gotten to the point I dont see it as a sacrifice. Attraction add's some interesting things to a friendship and flirtation to me is a fun game. The only I ever have is it makes it harder for me some times to try and transition to something more than friendship. But overall it isn't a problem so long as you are at least a little mature.

[identity profile] dramakeen.livejournal.com 2004-02-06 01:21 pm (UTC)(link)
Yes, sure. When you're young and stupid it becomes an exercize in angsty, heart-rendering, foo-foo poetry-writing b.s. but as you age you realize that attraction is just part of the universe and you end up letting it all slide as just part of the game. At least until you end up getting stalked over the internet by crazy-train 18 yr. olds ;)

Reminds me of the gist of 'When Harry Met Sally', really.

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[identity profile] technoir.livejournal.com 2004-02-07 05:41 am (UTC)(link)
my sentiments exactly.

In high school I had difficulty with the notion.

[identity profile] thetempestchic.livejournal.com 2004-02-06 02:39 pm (UTC)(link)
From personal experience, yes it's possible.

[identity profile] jenn-nicole.livejournal.com 2004-02-06 05:18 pm (UTC)(link)
I am agreeing with everyone here. In fact, going through that now.

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[identity profile] technoir.livejournal.com 2004-02-07 05:42 am (UTC)(link)
hope all goes well with you on that.

[identity profile] digital-avatar.livejournal.com 2004-02-07 02:01 am (UTC)(link)
I never saw that movie. Though I may just have to.

I have never once had luck being attracted to one of my friends.

Not so long ago I told a good friend of mine that she was top on my list for a reallly long time. About six years. She thanked me, which I didn't expect as most of those things go horribly for me.

I still like hanging out with her a lot. Heck I saw her just the other night, and things were gravy. It's not like I'm unapproachable about anything with her, though. I mean it took me six years of never even mentioning the issue to her, let alone pushing the issue on her.

I've not said anything to her about it since then, as I don't want to seem like someone who is just out for the bigger, better deal. I'm really not. I'm just out to be with someone that I care about, and be cared about in return.

I'm a simple southern boy when it comes to that.

Take it easy, bro.

[identity profile] pleroma.livejournal.com 2004-02-07 05:43 am (UTC)(link)
I'd say it all depends upon the willpower of the person who is attracted to their friend.

Some people have no compunction about screwing up a friendship. Some people think that they value friendship higher than they value getting some play, but they really don't. And some people will behave exactly as they say because they do value friendship, despite being attracted to said person, as well as their honor in doing something they said they would - even if they said it to themselves.